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It’s not you it’s me When someone says this they are trying to protect you from feeling in any way responsible for their decision to discontinue contact.
It can leave you feeling confused and wondering if it is worth hanging around and waiting for them to sort out their issues – it isn’t.
Valid reasons crop up all the time that prevent people from being able to make a date or return a message.Common brush-off lines include: I’m not ready for a relationship If someone says this to you the best thing you can do is take the hint and find someone who is ready for a relationship.Whatever you do, don’t try and persuade them to change their mind or say that you will wait around until they are ‘ready’, this will only make you come across as desperate and needy.Not everyone who gives you a reason why they can’t see you will be giving you the brush off.Sometimes there are genuine reasons which are usually followed by an attempt to rectify the situation.